Where is the line with friends of the opposite sex when you’re married? This topic has come up recently with some of my friends. I’ve posed this question to a number of people and received a variety of different answers. Some think that solo meals out are a big no, while others think it’s fine to stay for multiple nights with a single friend of the opposite sex, going out drinking each night.
My husband and I are happy together, and we both have people we would call friends who are of the opposite sex. First and foremost, we are each other’s best friend. We honestly don’t do a whole lot with friends of the opposite sex without being together. It isn’t a conscious choice, but it’s just the way it worked out. We do things with other couple friends, or with some of my girlfriends, but never really solo without the other being there. We had never really discussed this boundary; things just unfolded this way in our lives.
I combed back in my mind trying to find a time since being with my (now) husband of when I was out with a male friend solo, and I can’t find one! I’ve had meetings, lunches, coffee meetings with male co-workers, but I don’t consider that to be the same thing.
As women, we are experiencing a time in the world when we feel empowered, so what’s the big deal about having male friends, or your husband having a female friend that they do things with?
This is more a question to you all…what do you think of friendships with the opposite sex and where do you drawn your lines in the sand? I’m not looking for judgement on what others do, but am honestly curious to know what are your boundaries? And, did these boundaries come into place via a discussion or were they just natural boundaries that evolved?