I love all things girlie. I love high heels, cute clothes and beautiful jewelry, including earrings. My ears are pierced and you can typically find me in my favorite diamond studs that my husband gave me. So you can tell, I am certainly a fan of these tiny holes that allow for the cutest accessories that doll up any outfit, but it is different when you are talking about your children’s ears. When I was pregnant with my daughter it didn’t even cross my mind until a friend bought me a gift. When I opened it, my heart sank as I saw these adorable sterling silver earrings, made so small and perfect just for a baby.
I assume your going to pierce Ellie’s ears when she’s born, so I wanted to get her some special earrings.”
I quickly thanked her and tucked the beautiful gift away. That night during my pregnant insomnia, it hit me. Am I piercing my little baby’s ears? Is this something I want to do? And the answer, for me, was no. Let me explain.
I was an infant when my mom took me to get mine done. I don’t ever remember it and I’ve always known them to be pierced. I see why some parents opt for this route, since it’s easier for them to keep them clean and less likely they will mess with them when they are infants. I totally get this position that some parents take.
But I chose to decline ear piercing for my daughter for one specific reason, and that it is because I want it to be her decision. Who am I to decide that my daughter’s ears will be pierced? That this elective and cosmetic procedure is for her? What if she doesn’t like earrings? What if she didn’t want those extra holes for life? As parents, we make so many life decisions for our children everyday (the joys of parenting) like vaccinations, education, clothing, rules, bedtimes, etc. that I think we need to leave a few decisions for our children, for when they get a little older, and have the ability to decide for themselves.
I know it seems like a simple and normal thing to do, but I want my daughter to learn that we are here to protect her and her body, and when she is old enough and decides to get her ears pierced, then I will be happy to support her and take her to get them done. I’m assuming around 9-10 years old she will start noticing friends that have earrings, and she will then decide if this is something she wants to do. For me it is a form of a life lesson for her, because these small holes will be there for the rest of her life. I want her to make certain she wants them, and understands the responsibility that comes along with it, such as keeping her ears clean, and keeping track of her new jewelry.
I know what your thinking, earrings are so common, and so many kids and women have them done, but this to me isn’t about the ears being pierced, but about self awareness, protecting her body, and helping her make good decisions that will last a lifetime.
What do you think? Have you pierced your children’s ears? Did you wait until they asked or did you get it done when they were babies?